Frankly, it may also be too soon for me to post about things like this...but I figure you all have suffered through at least two weeks of no Tales From The Trenches Tuesday, so I should really throw you some sort of a bone. And I think I'd like some feedback, and many of you are REALLY good at feedback :)
Rewind to the last guy I actually dated -- this was back in late Winter and into Spring. And I don't think I really mentioned him at all on here, just when things actually ended. Sorry, I lied. I DID write about some of my worries while we were dating. And there is no way I could ever write about ALL of my worries because I just have too damn many of them. I am a worrier (it's genetic I think...thanks Coach!) and Hakuna Matata is a catchy song but not something I can actually live out in my day-to-day.
So one of the things that caught me a little off guard back then was when I was offered a toothbrush. I don't know how much actual time had passed but I had slept over at his place a number of times. And suddenly I was being offered a toothbrush. Before even beginning to question if it was time to be talking about toothbrushes, I remember wondering to myself "So does he just have a stock of toothbrushes that he hands out to sleeper-overers?"
And no, he was not a dentist, so I could not come up with any plausible reason for him to have a stock of spanking-new toothbrushes on hand. I mean...I didn't peek under his sink (kudos to me, right??) but I imagined there would have been something like this staring back at me.
I don't remember that I ever verbally accepted or declined that toothbrush. But it stayed there in the holder in his bathroom...and I used it when I slept over at his place. I felt weird about it every time though. Even after we had "the talk", I still felt uneasy about that whole toothbrush situation. Just kept making me anxious at how frequently toothbrushes may get cycled through there.
So how soon is too soon to have a talk about toothbrushes? Is keeping toothbrushes casually stashed around town totally acceptable these days? I mean, I have one I keep here at work but I don't think that's exactly on par with what I am getting at here. Or should people now be travelling with their own toothbrushes at all times, just in case? I mean, I keep a lot of things in my purse -- pair of flats for when my heels start to hurt, at least 3 chapsticks, 4 shades of lipgloss, even a peanut butter sandwich sometimes -- but maybe I should throw a toothbrush in there now.
And why am I all of the sudden pondering over toothbrushes? Well the boy that I have been going on dates with (clearly if he sticks around I need to come up with some sort of name for him) stayed over the other night and in leaving the next day, neglected to pack his toothbrush. So I noticed it there last night sitting on my sink and sent him a text to let him know he left it behind. Which was probably pointless of me because I hope in the day that had passed since he had been at my apartment, he would have been planning to brush his teeth and made that discovery that he didn't have his toothbrush with him all on his own.
I had a text from him this morning saying "Maybe I can just keep it there for sleepovers?" can't say I saw something like that coming. And THAT, dear bloggy friends, is what has me all sorts of hung up on toothbrushes today.
Again, this is very out of character for me to be sharing so much, but hey, let's try something new and different, shall we? Is it too soon for a toothbrush? How many other toothbrushes might he have stashed around the greater DC area? Am I just so cracked out from the stress of coming back to a mess of work at the office that I am just being cracked out about this too?