Monday, May 2, 2011

And the hits keep on coming...sigh


That's how I feel at work lately. Nothing is worth getting upset over, nothing worth talking about, nothing worth figuring out just how to fix it. All I can do is sigh -- heavily and often.

I can work with some lawyers being total jerks and @ssholes. Do I think it is OK? No I really don't, but I just try to survive each encounter and keep on trucking.

I have accepted some people in my DC office being downright mean and nasty. For no reason. Do I think it's acceptable? Absolutely not, but with some folks, I don't see it changing any time soon. If ever.

I can deal with the occasional office thief. Could even be a food-thieving ring.

But tonight I got an email from a colleague in my department letting me know that another person in our department was saying some very unkind things about me. And this....well this might be the thing that pushes me out.

I don't really know what to do about it. Not sure there is anything I can or should do about it even. But it feels awful to just have to sit and take it. To know someone is being so childish and unkind (let alone that they are saying disparaging things about ME) and not be able to stop it. It sucks, plain and simple.

I learned a valuable lesson from a person in HR once. If you like the people you work with, you can get through just about anything. You don't have to be besties with the people you work with (although I have been fortunate to make some friends along the way at various jobs) but it helps immensely to get along with the folks you are spending 40+ hours with each week. Up until recently, I thought one of the best things about this firm, was that the people in the department supported and assisted one another so much more than my previous firm. It helped me not feel like an island onto myself at one of the "other" offices. But things have changed...and not for the better. There are a few people I really do like. Maybe I would feel differently if I even had more than one co-worker with me in the DC office. I really don't know.

What I do know is I am a good person and I work hard. I try to help out my department colleagues and add value to the projects that I work on. And call me old fashioned, I think that should be good enough.


  1. Good morning from Tokyo!

    It sounds like you are doing a wonderful job at your office~and perhaps someone has sour grapes because they can't do the job quite as well. It is so hard to deal with naysayers, especially when they drag others into it. Perhaps you could take this to the source and have a quiet discussion? Does your office have mediators to assist in something like this.

    Hopefully my questions don't sound silly, but I'm not familiar with the type of dynamics you work in and just don't know.

    I'll pray for a solution to present itself. IN the meantime, hold your head high and keep doing a great job. Your efforts are bound to be recognised.



  2. Thank you, Elizabeth -- the suggestions and insight are helpful. The person speaking ill of me won't ever return my phone calls and rarely returns my emails, so I don't know that it's an option to talk to her about it. Ugh, what a mess. But seriously, your insight helped enormously! And I do just need to be graceful and keep my head high.

  3. I know that can be tough. I deal with it daily too. But I know I do a good job and work hard and so do my bosses. Ultimately I have decided that the people who want to say bad things are jealous or just sad with thier own lives.
    I do hope it gets better for you.

  4. This sounds like a tough situation. when you spend so much of your time at work it is really hard when some a-holes can make it so unpleasant and stressful. Hang in there girl