Thursday, January 12, 2012

Random Etiquette Question...

I am usually SO on top of things like this, but juts had a random thought and didn't know what the rule of thumb was for this. I was unfortunately unable to attend a wedding last year, but sent a gift to the bride and groom. It was technically "off registry" but was a small little token and then a gift card to one of the stores they were registered at, so they could put it towards anything they ended up not getting.

How long, give or take, is the amount of time in which the bride and groom would send a thank you note? I'm asking because I am just wondering if they ever even received the gift. I don't want to be tres-tacky and ASK her if she ever got it, but now I am just curious....

Have no clue WHY this thought popped up in my head today. Or why I seem to be so hung up on it!

9 comments:

  1. I honestly don't know how long they have to send a thank you. Not long I wouldn't think. Was this wedding in Nov or Dec? With the holidays they are probably behind. If it was in the summer, I'd say you can ask as long as you phrase it as concern to verify it made it to her in one piece.

    KK

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  2. I thought it was a year, and when I looked online thats what I came up with. On another site it said it should be done within 3 months of receiving the gift.

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  3. Quoting my Emily Post Book of Etiquette:

    Ideally, you'll write on the day you receive a wedding gift...The accepted standard: Your thank-you notes should be written and sent within three months of receipt of each gift.

    p.s. Asking etiquette questions is a sure way to get me fired up. :)

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  4. Oh had the same thing happen and can't decide if they didn't get the gift or are just rude.

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  5. I still haven't gotten a thank you note from a wedding gift from four years ago....I think people are just rude these days. Sad, but true!

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  6. I believe they have up to a year to write a thank you note. You can always email or Facebook them and ask if they are enjoying their gift!

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  7. I think generally etiquette says 1year, but seriously - who takes an ENTIRE year to write thank you notes? That is very rude. It may be worth mentioning the next time you speak to her, just in confirm she got it.

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